Archive for October, 2010

Preggos at the Bunny Ranch

October 6, 2010

One day I caught the Tyra Banks episode (if I remember correctly) of a pregnant woman who was (is?) working at the Bunny Ranch.  Obviously she worked there BEFORE getting pregnant but what happened was – she got pregnant and she became a “hot ticket item”. I guess there seems to be a lot of men who have a fetish for pregnant women.

What was disturbing to me was how this woman really didn’t want to be working while she was pregnant. She felt disturbed by dealing with Johns with a baby in the womb. And she mentioned she’d get really irritated and pissed off when they’d try to rub her stomach or acknowledge it at all.

It was really creepy – I gotta say. The way these men were looking at her stomach – like it was a foot long sub and they hadn’t eaten for two weeks or some shit. And I felt really terrible about it because it was CLEAR that she wasn’t into having sex with these guys, or even being around them…

So why was she staying? The money and the DEMAND (see that word, read it and learn it cuz it’s the most IMPORTANT driving force of sex work); The demand was so high for a pregnant woman – that she felt like she was missing on opportunities to take care of her future child (iow – MONEY). She mentioned in the interview that she always felt relieved when they would all line up so that the Johns could make their choice, and they’d go for a non-pregnant woman (even with how these women line up for the Johns so they can make their “selection” is creepy, in my mind – it’s earily too much like the slave trade).

And it’s like – people want to call this empowering? I don’t get it. Yes, there are times when I really don’t want to be at my job – like right now, I have a really horrid sinus headache…. and being at work with that kind of thing really blows (actually being anywhere – even trying to sleep blows – cuz I can’t sleep with this kind of headache). BUT imagine trying to interact with strangers on a personal level – in a somewhat intimate level (even if superficial), feeling like that? Having people touch you? Groping your unborn child?

I feel like these guys are pedophiles. I mean – that’s what it felt like watching that show… They were basically saying it’s so sexy for women to have this new life in their stomach – and that’s THE fetish – UNBORN child. And I’m just like, ICK. That isn’t even your kid in her womb dude.

I don’t know – it’s just fucking creepy. I understand why’d she’d get irritable when guys would rub her stomach or touch it, and a lot of them would even talk to it (which bothered her even more, if I remember correctly – she didn’t want her baby remembering THEIR voices).

And the scumbag Bunny Ranch owner didn’t give a fuck – the Johns didn’t give a fuck – even when she was recoiling away from them in disgust. They just didn’t seem to notice or care. And I can’t help but think that there is something not right upstairs with these men… And this is why I think they are pedophiles because they weren’t even interested if the prostitute wanted them or was at ease (it didn’t even seem like they noticed HER)… She was an irrelevant prop in their creepy fetish. How can men get boners with women who are obviously feeling that way? Women who can’t even bring themselves to put on the act? It boggles my mind. And this is why I think a lot of Johns are criminal and that their behavior is rapey (love that term rapey – stole it from pixiebiz on youtube). Because many of them don’t care if they are shackin’ up with an underage girl (some even go specifically for the 13 yr olds) or someone who has been trafficked from other countries… They don’t really care if the woman starts to recoil – they want what they paid for and any regard for her comfort or even her sexual pleasure is completely ignored.

And you know – I’d be interested to know how much of a womans own sexuality is taken into account during this type of interaction. Do the men care? Are they just looking for the stereotypical type sexuality spewed all over popular media/porn? How much of it really has to do with the woman?

I totally recommend watching that Tyra show. They show her with some of these Johns and she’s literally making disgusted faces at these guys and sometimes even backing away from them… Where is the “enthusiastic consent” bullshit that everyone keeps going on about? I sure as fuck didn’t see it. In short – it’s rape. Does the aspect of “money” change the fact that she really didn’t want to interact sexually with these fuckers?

Sexual Hang-ups?

October 5, 2010

You GOTTA love the asshole pro-sex trade people that try to paint us as if we have sexual hang-ups. I got a question, what the hell is a sexual hang-up? Not being turned on by feet? Not getting off on females being gagged with penii? Seriously – what the hell IS a sexual hang-up? And why do you think it’s “sex-positive” for shaming people who do not adhere to YOUR brand of “sexuality” (or your force-fed, mass produced, poppy culture brand of “I’m-to-dumb-to-think-for-myself” type sexuality)? Talk about being complete fucking narcissists!
And you know – they are ALWAYS the first to shame someone who’s asexual, or someone who’s not ready to have sex in their 20’s, cuz like OMG, that MUST mean “sexual hang-up.” (apparently worrying about STDs or not desiring complete strangers is a sexual hang-up). Some feminist made a comment about how it was stupid for women to use cleavage to get subscribers on youtube – and she was accused of having a sexual hang-up for it! LOL. It seems to me that some people just can’t handle ANY kind of criticism – and usually they can’t handle such criticism cuz it’s fucking true.
These people aren’t really sex positive, it’s a load of crap! In MY mind – “sex positive” would include being receptive to people who are asexual, or who aren’t fucking everything that walks. People who consider their anus an exit only hole, or even the people who consider their vaginas exit only. People who are squeamish of having a penis in their mouth… All of these sexualities should be celebrated, no? Wouldn’t that be the TRUE defintion of sex positive feminism? Apparently being slapped and called a dumb cunt is the ONLY TRUE positive sex.
They use this fucked up line to try and destroy the credibility of ANYONE who has some good critique. I know that I’ve been accused of having sexual hang-ups in comment threads because I pointed out that the way females are presented in pornographic films (for the most part) has NOTHING to do with female sexuality. So I AM the one with a sexual hang-up because I have the AUDACITY to notice that merely every position shown in pornography does NOTHING to stimulate a female? Yeah… that’s rich. I guess I’m pretty sexually hung-up to know my own body and make the silly assumption that womens bodies are fairly similar (though I realize things vary quite a bit as well). I guess I’m sexually hung-up for pointing out that anal sex doesn’t bring a woman to orgasm or even make her wet… I actually got that response from a guy when I asked the question “Why aren’t men being railed up the asses in hetero mainstream porn, at least they got prostates!” Which is just a thought I constantly come back to because it seems really ass-backwards… Seems to me that straight men are the ones with sexual hang-ups. LOL (not that I have any desire to penetrate a man anally). The asshole tried to justify it and be like, “well some straight men DO like takin one up the rear.” The frickin’ goof couldn’t come up with a good reason why it’s NEVER SHOWN IN HETERO PORN.
And some asshole decides to come and tell me that a lot of women are turned on by anal sex when their clit is stimulated… and I couldn’t help myself – I’m like – don’t you think she’s REALLY being turned by the clitoral stimuli, not the cock in her ass?!?!!?! If a woman does not like being fucked anally without some clitoral stimuli – doesn’t it make you wonder how people can claim that some women are turned on by anal? God, Holy Almighty – I MUST be sexually hung up for asking such questions!!! Why don’t I just shut the fuck up and take one up the ass for da boyz?
If we are going to play the “you are sexual hung-up” game – lets look at just HOW sexually hung up the average porn user actually is… For example – what about women who have anal sex – even though they complain about how bad it hurts? Call me crazy – but doesn’t that seem like a sexual hang-up? I personally think that anyone who feels the NEED to have uncomfortable sex to please whoever, is basically sexually hung-up. They are letting OTHERS define their own sexuality or maybe they are allowing others to not even recognize they have a sexuality that isn’t pre-packaged.. Or what about the people who view so much porn and let it brainwash them to the point that they can’t even get it up for their long-time partner anymore? Isn’t THAT a sexual hang-up?
Or what about the men who get off on women being treated like shit, like the rugs they wipe their feet on? Aren’t they sexually hung-up if they need to fantasize about treating another human being like that to get off? Or what about the people who think that sex and pornography are the same thing or think that strippers are turned on by stripping? Or what about the people who think that if you criticize push-up bras, you are criticizing sex? Aren’t these people sexually hung-up? It seems to me that they don’t even know what sex is. LOL
I’m not really trying to define what a sexual hang-up is but it seems to me that if one is “sex-positive” – than all forms of sexuality must be respected – even the forms of sexuality that are disgusted with this representation of female sexuality commonly found in pornography. Or the people who just have no desire to fuck.
I mean, here’s what I think – anytime someone accuses ANOTHER peron of having a “sexual hang-up” they are fucking projecting their own issues onto other people. Not being horny is NOT a sexual hang-up, hating pornography and being disgusted with it is NOT a sexual hang-up. Not being willing to give up your own body to men, to do whatever they want with it – is NOT a sexual hang-up.
And seriously – I DARE anyone to prove how being disgusted with porn and with how women are being tortured in the sex trade has ANYTHING at all to do with “sexual hang-ups.”